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How the power players do it - by Fortune senior editor at large Patricia Sellers

Are women lousy negotiators?

June 2, 2011: 9:54 AM ET

"If a man cuts himself with a razor, it's the razor's fault," quipped Bettina Whyte, a managing director at corporate turnaround advisory firm Alvarez & Marsal. "But if a woman cuts herself with a razor, she wonders, 'What did I do wrong?'"

That was just one of the, umm, razor-sharp comments at a panel discussion during private equity firm Solera Capital's annual meeting last week. Solera, which is run by founding chairman and CEO Molly Ashby, is often noted for it's commitment to diversity-- hence the discussion topic, "Women: Power and Success."

The conversation, which was led by my Fortune colleague Pattie Sellers, addressed women's abilities to argue for themselves. "Women are bad at negotiating," said Julie Daum, who is a go-to recruiter for companies interested in bringing on more women to their boards. Daum, who works for executive search firm Spencer Stuart, noted that women often start working at smaller base salaries because they typically accept opening financial offers as fair. To a man, that same offer is often "an opening gambit," Daum said.

In an email exchange following the discussion, Daum expanded on her point: "It is not just [women's] initial packages. It is throughout their career. When they make changes to another organization or get promoted, they tend to do less negotiating."

Bettina Whyte argued that women "do not use money to validate themselves."

Former WNBA chief Donna Orender noted, though, that while some women may find it difficult to negotiate for themselves, women can be very strong negotiators in other business deals.

Postcards is no stranger to this topic. Susan Wilson, CEO of the Judgment group, asked, "Are girls afraid of money?" on the site in April. And last week, Gerry Laybourne, who founded Oxygen Media, claimed that women "don't know how to toot [their] own horns."

Laybourne suggested, "If you don't toot your own horn, toot another woman's horn." Indeed, Whyte contended with her own reluctance to discuss pay with her bosses by hiring a female attorney to argue on her behalf.

Do you agree that women are bad at negotiating for themselves? What can women do to resolve the problem?

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Pattie Sellers
Patricia Sellers
Senior Editor at Large, Fortune
Executive Director of MPW/Live Content, Time Inc.

Fortune senior editor at large Pattie Sellers has written some of Fortune's most talked-about cover stories, including "Marissa Mayer: Ready to Rumble at Yahoo," "Oprah's Next Act," "Can Meg Whitman Save California?" "The $100 Billion Woman" (Melinda Gates), and "Remodeling Martha" (Martha Stewart). She has helped oversee Fortune's "Most Powerful Women in Business" package every year since its launch in 1998. Pattie is Executive Director of the Fortune Most Powerful Women Summit, the preeminent gathering of women leaders in business and beyond. She oversees MPW programs that enable women leaders to extend their influence and empower the next generation—such as Fortune MPW Entrepreneurs and the Fortune-U.S. State Department Global Women Leaders Mentoring Partnership. Beyond her Fortune duties, she is also developing Live Content across Time Inc. Pattie grew up in Allentown, PA, graduated from the University of Virginia, and started at Fortune in 1984. Her blog, Postcards, is about how power players lead, manage others, and navigate their careers.

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